VOTE for Sex Nerd Sandra! (for Best Mature Podcast)

2 Nov

Friends, I implore you. The time has come to cast your vote. Right now. Seriously, it’s really easy. Be a patriot.

Click HERE to go to and click “Sex Nerd Sandra” under MATURE podcasts. You just enter name & email and you’re done!

If you really love Dave & Me, you’ll vote every day till Nov 15th (hint, hint, guilt, guilt). Plus, you can vote for other Nerdist faves “The Indoor Kids” and “Mike & Tom Eat Snacks.” Also, “The Young Turks” is on there and by golly, I did so enjoy being on their show, “The Point.” 

The Dan Savage podcast is such a popular pick. He does wonderful, meaningful work for world change and all, but pshaw, that makes our show the underdog. VOTE FOR THE UNDERDOG!!! Woof woof! 

I haven’t won an award since I was a little thing in AYSO soccer and everyone got an award. Remedy this, nerdlings!

Oct 11 – Free Workshops in SANTA BARBARA this Thurs!

8 Oct

As I mentioned on the podcast the last few weeks, I’ll be having TONS of fun with Love Campus Tour at UC Santa Barbara’s Corwin Pavilion! 11 am I talk ORAL SEX & at 1:30 I rock a class on SEX TOYS. Tell anyone you know in the Santa Barbara area I AM COMING FOR YOU! 

(Then, I’m BACK IN LOS ANGELES that evening for Sex Nerds Unite! My Crowd-Sourcing Sex Ed Show!)

SEX NERDS UNITE! A Crowd-Sourced Sex Ed Show!

19 Sep

To balance out my guilt from not posting on my blog very much, I’ll share with you a little tidbit from my own life that I HAVEN’T shared on the podcast as of yet. 

I recently had sex with a sex machine. Yeah, those thrusty kinds that go in-out-in-out… Yep. It was so cooool. I’d be lying if I didn’t say part of me was thinking “Huh, interesting. Very interesting” while another part of me was going “yeaaaaaaah.”


On THURSDAY OCTOBER 11TH @9pm this is happening at the Nerdist Showroom

Sex Nerds Unite!

Wanna hear some juicy questions on love & pleasure? Great! Because I get them ALL THE TIME! Join me, sex-positive coach & educator Sex Nerd Sandra as I answer my favorite listener emails and ask YOU to help me nerd out on sex. Audience questions are welcome and encouraged! 

Podcast host & sex educator Sex Nerd Sandra REALLY wants to tell you about a neat sex tip she just learned. And so it goes with a sex nerd. With two MILLION downloads in the first year, her Nerdist Industries podcast “Sex Nerd Sandra” with co-host Dave Ross has beamed sex positive knowledge directly into ears everywhere. It’s been quite an adventure blending her broadcasting skills with a lifetime of sex nerdery. Continually expanding on a wide range of skill sets for the erotic & neurotic, Sandra can’t wait to dish dirt with you for the betterment of humanity! 

***No one under 18 admitted


Oh snap I can’t wait!

Arizona, Abortion and Quite the Reality Distortion Field

27 Aug

Oh, pregnancy. I just learned a whole lot about buns in the oven today and it may have saved my life. Did you know doctors calculate one’s pregnancy due date by the first day of  a female’s last period? And did you know doctors consider 14 days after that last crimson tide as the official egg-meets-sperm day, without much concern for mild inaccuracies? Yeah, it’s true. A doctor told me all about it over the internet (it’s actually a fantastic article on gyno history and math)

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Upcoming Workshops & Show Dates!!!

21 Jul

Oh man, fresh off the plane back from Japan and so much happening this Fall!

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External Prostate Massage: I Got Cock Blocked

3 Jun

Angry rooster, get out of the way!

I’m both embarrassed and thrilled to find out this week that I’ve been cock blocked, quite literally, in my understanding of external prostate massage.

Lately, I’ve been obsessed with genitals. Or more specifically, their underlying structures. Recent time spent staring at Planned Parenthood’s diagrams (so detailed!) mixed with enlightening sex conference lectures have inspired me to take some of the fuzzier (read: enigmatic) pleasure areas and really flesh them out. 

One spot of confusion has been the male perineum. That is, the space between the scrotum and the anal opening. The way I’ve always heard it, to pleasure the prostate externally, just “push up on the area behind the balls.” I’ve experimented pressing on this area on partners many a-time, with little more reaction than a shrug. I finally figured I was just a super lame-o and moved on to other hot spots.

Then it HIT me this week while studying up on internal male anatomy for my workshop on backdoor basics. Staring at the location of the prostate***, my gaze drifted downward and was startled to notice what lay just beneath the surface of the perineum.

Diagram from Dr. Jack Morin’s fabulous book on “Anal Pleasure & Health.” I added the arrow for context. I highly recommend this book to everyone with an anus. Srsly.

Ahoy there! It be the bulb of the penis, where the deep end of the erection ends! Pressing up on the front half of the male perineum meets this bulb while the back half of the perineum has muscle, but no cock block. So it’s softer and offers up a secret pressure port to the prostate. Huh. Well look at that.

So, I realize now that I was pressing TOO FAR FORWARD! I always knew that an erection doesn’t end at the pubic mound. What I didn’t realize is that it ends close to the outside of the body, directly above the front half of the perineum! No wonder it always felt so hard! Duh!!!

And so my friends, we learn once again that, as with so many devilish delights, the pleasure is in the details.


***FYI The prostate gland is a walnut shaped rich bed of sensual nerve endings on male bodies that can be felt three or so inches past the anal open through the rectal wall toward the belly button. Ding dong! It originates from the same tissue source as the urethral sponge in women, commonly referred to as the G-spot.

Sex Books for the Discerning Sex Nerd!

11 May

Look! I did a video! Yeah, I know, I know, a new podcast every week but my face doth hide. Well, finally, I’ve compiled a list of books I think are tops in their given field and done a video to boot. I think I’ve earned a cookie. Muah!


“Guide to Getting it On” by Paul Joannides, Psy.D.
“Sex is Fun” by Kidder Kaper/ illustrated by Josh Lynch
“Moregasm” by Claire Cavanah & Rachel Venning
“The New Book of Topping/Bottoming” by Dossie Easton & Janet W. Hardy
“SM 101” by Jay Wiseman
“Mating in Captivity” by Esther Perel
“365 Positions” by Lisa Sweet
“She Comes First” by Ian Kerner, Ph.D.
“Tickle His Pickle” by Dr. Sadie Allison
“The Multi-Orgasmic Man/Woman/Couple” by Chia, Chia, Abrams & Abrams, M.D.

Upcoming Events!

9 Apr

My forte is sex ed, not marketing or blog interfacing, so until I figure out how to set up a side panel of Upcoming Events, here’s what’s comin’ up!

WORKSHOP: April 18th – teaching “Suck it, Lick it, Love it” oral sex on males and females @pleasurechestLA – 8pm free

LIVE SHOW: April 23rd – “Open Relationships: Love Outside the Box” SNS Podcast recording @nerdmeltla in hollywood – 8pm $10

LIVE SHOW: May 18th – Live SNS Podcast Recording (topic tba) @nerdmeltla in hollywood – 7:30pm $10

WORKSHOP: July 23rd – teaching “Beginner Booty Basics! ” – Good Vibes in San Francisco (details tba) $20/$25

And if you know how to wordpress better than me, help a sex nerd out!

I Bowl for Awkward Moments

9 Apr

I cannot contain sexual metaphors in a bowling alley. RESTRAINT I HAZ NOT!  Bowling for Team Nerdist on their new fancy show, “All Star Celebrity Bowling” proved quite the learning experience. They were all pros of the camera. 

RE Minute 5:15: “Geeze, Jonah. I was talking about Bowling. Get your mind out of the gutter.” *hyuck* #bowlingpun #couldn’t help myself

Sometimes a Girl Just Wants Good Head

8 Apr

I’m inspired by a play I saw tonight. Set in 1963, The Magic Bullet Theory was a fun who-shot-JFK ride rich with witty dialogue. One topic that came up several times was blowjobs. One man-character says “women were put on this earth for 2 reasons: to suck our dicks and take our balls.”

Now, contextually, that remark  fit with the character and his point, so I don’t mean to get all up in feminism’s business, but it did stir something in my psyche. Later in the story during a fabulous montage scene, a blowjob is artfully woven into the dance number for a brief few moments.

That blowjob buisness got me a little, well, distracted. First in the hot kind of way. Then I got kind of mad. The passionate voice in my head said,

“Why do I never hear women saying, ‘oh man, all I need right now is a good eating out,’ hmm? Why do I never get to see cunnilingus depicted in such a fun & casual manner? I’m not ALL flowers and cuddling, ya know!”

I’ve just never seen a woman portrayed that way. The character in the play receiving aforementioned head was a lawyer. He was a professional going about his job and having a little fun on the side. Good times all around. What if a woman were playing the part?

I’ve seen so many male characters in movies and stories triumphantly referencing receiving a blowjob as a thing of pride. Yet, on the female side of things, I don’t recall much in the way of a gleeful brag.

It seems to be a dark spot in pop culture. I mean, the concept of a man at his desk getting serviced by his intern/secretary/whoever is all too familar. Yet when do we see a woman expressing her enjoyment of the same kind of carnal attention? Rarely, in my mind. Of course, I haven’t taken in Game of Thrones or True Blood yet, so fingers crossed perspectives are expanding.

It’s safe to assume that enjoying oral sex is not a gendered activity. I’d like to see that reflected back at me in the stories we tell ourselves. Everyone is allowed to desire & enjoy some good old fashioned head, without shame or complication. And that’s what I have to say about that. xo


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